There are some myths about dating nerds that have been floating around for awhile now, and as a nerd myself I feel like I should address them.
The first is that non-nerd women should consider dating nerdy men because the nerdy guy will be so amazingly happy that a woman is letting him touch her that he will be supremely grateful and treat her like a queen. This enthusiasm will of course transfer over to the bedroom and he will put forth more effort than a "regular" guy into satisfying his philanthropic lover. I'm not going to really do a point-by-point debunk of this because the theories seem to have been created by people who have never actually allowed a nerd to touch them.
I've been dating nerds for about 20 years now (holy crap! Am I that old?) beginning with Edward the trombone playing Boy Scout. Most every guy I've dated since has been a gamer (computer or table top), IT guy, band nerd, Rennie, and/or SCAdian. I consider myself an expert on nerd love.
The thing is: Most nerds are no different than non-nerds. Some of them are considerate. Some are douche-canoes. Some really know their way around a woman's body. And some couldn't satisfy a woman if you made them an algorithm and annotated diagram.
In the interest of full disclosure and to give you the hot nerd love promised in the title, I'll go ahead and detail the extremes of the spectrum. Yes, these are totally stereotypical, but that's part of the fun. Go ahead and blow up the comments section with your angry rants.
First, the Alpha Nerd. He probably runs your D&D game. In his teens and early 20's he holds court at game night at the local comic book store. He either has a long-suffering girlfriend he regularly cheats on or has never been tied down to one girl and hooks up with whoever strikes his fancy on a particular day. Either one will rock your Casbah. They're good and they know it. Take them to a gaming convention, Rennaisance Faire, or SCA event and they'll need to install a revolving door to their pants. Fawkes from The Guild is a great example of this.
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On the other end of the spectrum is the Socially Awkward Basement Dweller. He's probably had the same job since high school, though his dream job is to work at the comic book store. If he's had a girlfriend, she was in high school and he'd just graduated and could buy her cigarettes and get her into R rated movies. They're frequently sloppy kissers and clumsy ineffective lovers. Check out Stuart the comic book store owner from The Big Bang Theory as a prime example.
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Rule #3 Nerds should stick to their own kind.